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My Second Fix Arrived!

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My second fix finally arrived today! I missed the initial delivery attempt so I had to reschedule for today. I’m so excited about this fix! There was one jacket, three tops, and one necklace. I’m keeping all 5 pieces! They could all use a little spin in the dryer on the steam setting to work out some of the wrinkles – I think the heat got to them too much this week!

Here they are – let me know what you think. Are they all keepers?

41Hawthorne Hinge Chain Multi-Color Necklace

41Hawthorne Hinge Chain Multi-Color Necklace

Collective Concepts - Marg Back-Zip Tab-Sleeve Printed Blouse

Collective Concepts – Marg Back-Zip Tab-Sleeve Printed Blouse

Ella Moss - Eban Striped Collared Button-up Top (my scarf)

Ella Moss – Eban Striped Collared Button-up Top (my scarf)

Potter's Pot - Monique Double Breasted Trench Coat (my scarf)

Potter’s Pot – Monique Double Breasted Trench Coat (my scarf)

Daniel Rainn - Alyson Silk Tabsleeve Blouse (my scarf)

Daniel Rainn – Alyson Silk Tabsleeve Blouse (my scarf)

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My Second Fix

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My second fix was supposed to be delivered today, but no one was home to accept delivery. I filled out the form and will tape it to the door. Keeping my fingers crossed that our postal carrier will see it and leave the package for me to open tomorrow night. I can’t wait to try on everything and share them with you!

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Do You Know the Rules of the Game?

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Have you ever opened the box of a new board game, card game, or even a new game app on your smartphone and just started playing?  Or, did you read (at least some of) the rules first?  Or did you already know some of the rules, but not the “unwritten rules” of how to play the game?  What did that feel like?  How long did it take you to understand the written as well as unwritten rules?  Did you persevere and push through without regard to the rules, or did you take a step back, evaluate the landscape, find and understand the rules and then move forward?  How successful were you?

Just like any board game, card game, or mobile game you might play, the game of business has written and unwritten rules.  The sooner you know what they are and can incorporate them into your style, the sooner you may find yourself successfully playing the game.  As Albert Einstein once said, “You have to learn the rules of the game, and then you have to play better than anyone else.”

Think of your career like a game (okay – not a frivolous game, but a serious one with rules, regulations, and measures of success).  Jean Otte, founder of Women Unlimited, Inc., tells us in Women are Changing the Corporate Landscape | Rules for Cultivating Leadership Excellence, “Every organization has its own rules of the business game.”  The written rules are generally easy to come by – they may be your company’s code of business conduct, rules of ethical behavior, and processes and procedures that are documented for your position, department or facility.  What might not be as easy to find are the unwritten rules.  But how do we find out about these unwritten rules?

One way to find out what some of them might be is to ask a seasoned member of your organization how things get done.  Some organizations work in a more hierarchical manner and going over your immediate supervisor is seen as disrespectful, even if it’s just to have lunch.  The image that you’re having a private conversation with your boss’s boss can lead to tension.  In other organizations, so called “skip level” meetings are common and encouraged.

These unwritten rules can vary by the type of industry you’re in.  For example, the technology sector is often portrayed as more laid back and casual, while traditional corporate America is more…well.. traditional.  Understanding your corporate culture is a key aspect of the unwritten rules.  A window into this culture can be found in the dress code that is in place.  Not too long ago (15 years?) some offices in corporate America still required suits – with coat and tie!

Note in the picture above of the Monopoly Rules, the first two sections are Equipment and Preparation.  What equipment do you need to do your job well and succeed in your career and are you preparing yourself appropriately with developmental opportunities?

As you go along “playing the game” how do you know if and when you’ve “won”?  What are the measures of success and how will you find out what they are?  Many companies have formal performance evaluation processes.  Find out early in the performance period what you will be measured on and continue to stay abreast of your performance throughout the year.  Review the expectations for your position (ask your manager what they are if you don’t know already), and perform your own self-evaluation periodically.  Are you accomplishing what you set out to do?  In what areas do you have gaps?  How can you fill them?  Be sure to have these types of conversations with your supervisor/manager as well as any direct reports you have – their view of your performance as a leader is a very important measure of your success.

Now get out there and discover the rules of your business game.  Roll the dice, pass Go, collect $200 and win!

 

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Stepping up My Game

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Moving outside proved to be a good thing and a challenge.  I enjoyed being outdoors, especially when the weather was pleasant.  We also had more options for locations to play.  We used the local high school tennis courts most often for the group lessons.  The challenges came mostly with the weather.  That summer was hot and dry.  I recall playing for two hours one evening, ending at 9:30pm, and it was still 100 degrees outside!

As the lessons progressed, so did I.  I could tell that my body was starting to “get” it.  No longer falling down, but wobbling occasionally – especially when we began learning how to serve.  You know the vertigo you get when at the top of a tall building looking out the windows at the city below you?  That is just how I felt when tossing the ball into the air for a serve.  Looking up at it and tracking it caused a little vertigo and even a little nausea.  I had a long way to go if I was ever going to be able to play with some level of competence!

The group lesson was scheduled just once a week and each week saw minimal progress.  I knew I needed to get out there more often but I wasn’t sure how to get the time to make that happen.  Then, my daughter came home from summer vacation and expressed some interest in playing tennis!  More on this development in my next post.

 

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Hindsight is 20/20

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Had I known what the last 18 months would have been like for me, I would have started writing about my experience sooner.  As the saying goes, “Hindsight is 20/20.”

 

Back in February 2012, I was invited to join a group of women in their 40′s who had decided to take up tennis.  Some had never played before in their lives (me!) and others had played in their high school days or intermittently over the last couple of decades.  We were fortunate to find an instructor who was patient with us  not only as we heaved balls all over the courts but also as we used the time to catch up a bit socially.

The first few lessons were indoors and I was extremely tentative and nervous – I have never been known to be in the least bit athletic or coordinated.  In fact, as we lined up for a drill (everyone else was behind me!), the first ball fed to me led to my collapse on the court.  No – the ball did not hit me, nor did anything else.  I just keeled over like one of those fainting goats that you see on YouTube.

As time went on, I fell less and hit the ball more.  Then summer time hit and we moved outdoors!  Stayed tuned for more on my tennis journey!

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